The Anatomy
of Peace
#1 conflict resolution bestseller for over a decade
Team dynamics poisoned by resentment and initiatives sabotaged by resistance. You've tried communication training, mediation, even consequences—but nothing sticks.
What if conflicts at home, at work, and in the world stem from the same root cause? And what if we systematically misunderstand that cause, unwittingly perpetuating the very problems we think we're solving? Through the powerful story of two fathers who each lost a son to the other's ethnic cousins, this book reveals how to transform your heart from war to peace, and in doing so, resolve even your most entrenched conflicts.
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Arbinger’s solutions equip leaders to move from an inward, self-focused mindset to an outward, people-centered approach that drives results.
A story of enemies who became allies
Heart at War:
When your heart is at war, you see others as objects—threats to overcome, obstacles to remove, or irrelevancies to ignore. You justify your mistreatment of them and blame them for the conflict. This perpetuates cycles of resentment and retaliation.
Heart at Peace:
When your heart is at peace, you see others as people—with hopes, fears, and needs like your own. This doesn't mean you're passive or weak. It means you're clear-sighted about what will actually resolve the conflict, rather than escalate it.
The Path Forward:
Peace isn't merely the absence of conflict. It's a way of being that transforms how you engage with everyone—even those who oppose you. You'll learn the practical steps to shift from a heart at war to a heart at peace, in any situation.
This isn't theory. It's a proven methodology that has transformed law enforcement practices, healed labor-management divisions, resolved family dysfunction, and brought peace to communities torn by conflict.
This book is essential reading if you're...
A leader dealing with team conflicts, resistance to change, or toxic dynamics that undermine performance.
An HR professional tasked with resolving workplace conflicts that traditional mediation hasn't solved.
A mediator or conflict professional seeking approaches that address root causes rather than just managing symptoms.
A parent struggling with a difficult child or teen, exhausted by constant battles and wondering how to break the cycle.
What readers are saying
The most powerful tool I've seen for finding real, lasting peace—in families, organizations, communities, and nations.
Pamela Richarde
Past President, International Coach Federation
I loved Leadership and Self-Deception, and The Anatomy of Peace takes it to the next level, personally and professionally.
Adel Al-Saleh
CEO, T-Systems
A book that could change the face of humanity.
Marion Blumenthal Lazan
Holocaust Survivor & Bestselling Author
Concepts that transform how you lead
Conflict Motivation
Why we want something more than solutions in our conflicts—and how this sabotages our efforts to resolve them
Self-Justification
The four ways we justify having our hearts at war (better-than, worse-than, must-be-seen-as, and I-deserve boxes)
Accountability
How to recognize when you're contributing to conflict—even when you're convinced you're the victim
True Helpfulness
The difference between helping outwardly (from a heart at peace) versus helping inwardly (from a heart at war)
Practical Tools
Practical tools for getting out of the box and staying out—even when others stay in
Inviting Change
How to help others find their way to peace without preaching or forcing change
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